Swaziland was not on our list of destinations when we planned this world trip. But it was in our way, right smack in the middle of South Africa, so we drove through it, spending one night there. As you will see from the photos, it was not at all unappreciated. The landscape, with its red iron-rich sand, seem dry dusty and barren but it is a beautiful landscape teeming with life.
We visited a traditional Swazi village and learnt about their way of life. Let me tell you about it my way:
A long time ago, a little Swazi boy
about to turn 6
got ready to move into his own hut.
For Swazi children
both boys and girls
left their parents’ huts
when they turn 6
to sleep in little huts of their own.
Girls near the entrance of the compound
to announce the arrival
or warn of the attack
Boys had their huts a little further away
at the beck of their father’s call.
In the compound
the medicine man
has his hut
surrounded by medicinal plants.
Some we recognize
like the aloe vera
others, native to Africa
we have no names for.
There is a meeting area
where only men and boys
come in the evenings
to talk, discuss, chat, laugh.
Girls and women
can only come at the edge
to bring food.
to show their respect
and their submission
for that is the way it is
Masocha is the eldest son
He, together with his youngest brother
will stay on to take over their father’s role
and the middle siblings may leave
to set up home anywhere they please.
Masocha, whose name mean soldier
will have to learn to hunt, to farm
and to accumulate some wealth
to be able to provide for a wife.
One who is considered ready to marry at 18
He can have as many wives as he can afford
his wealth indicated
by the number of cows he owns.
The girl he marries then becomes
No ring she wears
but instead goat skin
to indicate she is now a married woman.
If any of his wives practices witchcraft
or dares to cheat on him
he sends her back to her village
and there negotiates back his cows
given to her family in marriage
subtracting one cow for every son
two for every daughter
that she has borne him.
Masocha’s mother is first wife.
She has a hut to sleep in
and another to cook in when the weather brings rain.
Second wife has a hut nearer to father
also one to cook in
and the outdoor kitchen shared with first wife.
If he marries another, then her hut is nearest to him.
When Masocha is naughty or neglects his chores
then father thrashes him with a stick
and mother pulls his ear.
He runs to grandmothers hut
for in this hut he is safe you see.
The greatest respect is shown to grandmother.
Just the same, father and other men of the village
go to her hut to seek her wise advice.
In Swazi culture
the elder has the final say.
On the eve of Masocha’s wedding
If he is to go away
he spends the evening before there
gathering blessings to take with him on his journey.
When he returns from his long voyage
this is his first stop
where grandmother is ready
to welcome him and update him
on the events in his absence.
has committed a crime
he is tried by the men of the village.
He may lose a limb
or a life
if a life he has taken.
Then if the trial finds him guilty
he is to climb the Execution Rock
prodded by his fellow village men
he is made to jump.
Never is there a survivor known.
Masocha knows that
when he turns 6
he is old enough
to move into his own hut
but he will forever be considered a boy
until the day he takes a wife.
And so though he lies in anticipation
of turning 6
he is really dreaming
of becoming a man
that day he takes a wife.
And oh what a day of celebration that will be!
But until then
in the Kingdom of Swaziland
we are in no hurry.